Let me be honest here. I am a failure. There is no way in Kansas that I’ll be 160 pounds by my 30th birthday. I’ve hit a number of sidetracks and I’ve had the darndest time getting back on track. Holidays, snow storms, and my gym closed due to minor flooding.
I think I can still hit that weight by the end of this year, but I haven’t been able to get back on track. I get so discouraged when I think the only way to eat right is to track points. I can’t trust myself to eat just what I need. And that means I would have to track for the rest of my life. What is more discouraging than that thought???
I want to be thin with no effort. I want my parents to pay for it because they taught me to eat this way. And I want to eat and eat and eat.
I’m just not sure how to get where I was last year.
First of all, I’ve missed you!! Second of all, you are NOT a failure!! Everyone hits that bump on the road, the key is to jump up. Don’t forget why we are all here….to support each other….that hand up when we need it! I too struggle with the idea of tracking what I eat, and the idea that the only way I’ll keep the weight off is to do it forever, but I have decided that that isn’t going to be me. I quit WW’s because I was frustrated with it and I felt it was having a negative impact on my well being, so I’m trusting myself to watch what I eat….and to exercise….it’s not going to be easy, but I’m leaning on all of my friends and mostly myself to keep going! I’m a junkfood junkie……..it’s gonna be hard……..but we CAN do it!! I can and I know you can……….come on with me….jump up!! xoxo
Don’t consider it a struggle. Consider it an appropriate place to let your body re-adjust to the new shape and weight. Spend some time maintaining and when you’re ready push through with new habits to start losing again.
I once saw Health psychologist Michael Vallis present that we all want to lose weight rapidly and keep it off. But he said the more realistic (and long term successful) patients lost a little, kept it off, lost a little more, kept it off…
So if you have 50lbs to lose, he suggests losing 10lbs and keeping it off for a year then adding new habits for the next 10lbs, in a loop til you meet your goal.
Life is not pass/fail. It takes as long as it needs to take. And in the meantime, love yourself, be gentle with yourself. Weightloss will be a side-effect.
I just want to give you some support. You are not a failure. Look how far you’ve come! And you are not alone – I feel like this ALL the time too. Don’t worry about your deadlines worry about positive progress and you’ve had that all along!
YOU can do this! One day at a time…one meal…persistence not perfection!
My goal was be a healthier weight when I turned 30, and I did good, but I reached that point of not caring about it and gained all my weight back. Try to remain positive. Even if you don’t reach your 30th birthday goal, by continuing to lose weight and be healthier, you are still doing it. According to your tracker at the top, you have lost 52 lbs. That’s a little more than a 40lb bag of dog food and two 5 lb bags of flour you have been carrying around. Have you seen how big those 40 lb bags of dog food are? And you are over 1/2 way there!! You are doing great!
I did WW three times before I reached my goal weight, and got lifetime in November, so I know what you are going through. Stick with it! You’ll get there!
Oh my! You are so not a failure! Look at how much you have already achieved! You’ve lost 56.2 lbs (according to your ticker) already! That is no easy accomplishment! Be proud of what you’ve achieved so far, and be confident that you can achieve everything you set your mind to!
You are not a failure! Look what you have accomplished. I wish I could have lost 50 pounds, but what I did was lose 45 and gain it all back and then some. You are an inspiration and you should be so proud of yourself.
I’m sure you’ve heard it before, but you didn’t gain the weight overnight and you won’t lose it overnight either. The longer it takes to lose it, the longer you will have it off. Don’t do what I did, cut my calories so much that I lost it all within 4 months and then went off the diet and gained it all back.
I am back on the “horse” again and you and I can do this together. I am doing it day by day, slower this time so that I am able to keep it off. Please, please don’t give up. You are giving me hope! XO XO
I am so happy to see that you came here and posted this!! It is okay you may not make the whole goal by then. You have the goal of 160 as long as you are working towards it then you are making progress!
Just keep plugging away one day at a time and you will get there. There is not a deadline so go as you can, do what you need to to get your mindset back in order. Your body will not blow up if you do not weigh 10 in April!
Ask for help when you need it!! I am always here to cheer you on and I know I am not the only one
Hope to see more posts and watch you succeed today, tomorrow and next year.
XXO
Uh that should say 160 I would hate to see you or anyone weigh 10 pounds, good lord! LOL
You’re amazing!!! Don’t focus on the numbers.. your body will change and the numbers won’t… I bet you feel great! And tracking will become instinctive after a while.. you’ll just know when you’re hungry and you’ll start craving healthy foods… although I’m SO with ya on the “sueing my parents” I think Judge Judy would have a field day LOL .. stay strong.. you’re rocking
Hey! I too decided to lose weight for not only myself but my daughter. It’s paid off. My 10-year old eats, but eats well. She eats a lot of fresh food, does not want fast food and reads books such as Morgan Spurlock. Today she sat down and watched the Jamie Oliver talk at TED this year. (If you haven’t seen it, google it. It’s excellent.) It’ll be a reminder that you’re working on your health for all the right reasons. Don’t focus on the number. Focus on your daughter and raising her right and as a result, reeducating yourself about food. It’s hard. I won’t kid you. I still track my food, 3 years later. But it helps. And the payoff will be far down the road, when you feel good and your daughter grows up not having to completely change her way of life. And that’s because you raised her to be that way. HANG IN THERE!
Replace one of your meals with a large bowl of oatmeal. Not the instant kind. 2-3 minute oats, take about 3/4 cup of flakes, place in bowl, add water so it a little above the oats, nuke for 2 minutes (depending on power of your microwave). Add skim milk, throw in a handful of blueberries (or sliced bananas and almonds). Stir, eat. DO NOT ADD SUGAR! sprinkle cinnamon if you like.
And drink Evian water. Tastes great and makes you want to drink water. A bit expensive though. But hey if it tastes good…you’re drinking more water
“We cannot change our past. We can not change the fact that people act in a certain way. We can not change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude.” Charles R. Swindoll